“Silence isn’t empty, but yet full of answers.” How many times in your day do you hear silence? Yes, I said “hear silence.” Everyday we are bombarded by the texts, emails and calls pulsating through our phones. You turn on the TV to hear the recent reality show drama, the days events full of crime, murder, poverty and hardship. Our music pumps in our cars on the way to work with the sounds of traffic ringing in our ears. As caregiver’s we have the additional noise as we wake to the needs of our loved ones and fall asleep to the repetitive sound of an Alzheimer’s thought.
All caregivers are given the “survivor” tips by friends, family members, organizations, colleagues and on and on. They tell you in order to maintain your sanity on a daily basis, you should, “take care of yourself”, “try yoga”, “see a “therapist”, “join a support group”, and my favorite, “download this tip sheet or newsletter.” But how often do you hear, “take 10 minutes and be silent?”
After a recent visit to my Psychologist, I left her office very irritated with what she was pushing me to do. After months and months of explaining and describing the burden I face as a caregiver, daughter, wife, and working professional, she was pushing me to prioritize something in my life. All I kept thinking was, she wants me to do this, my colleagues want me to do that, my husband wants this and my mother needs that. I was feeling like a ping pong ball bouncing sporadically between the expectations of others. Caregivers are told to seek help, support and assistance, but they are rarely told, sit in silence and feed your soul.
After I left my therapists office I had realized what was bothering me; noise, constant direction, opinions, judgements and demands. I drove around the corner to my local park and sat patiently in silence, waiting it to speak to me. There was no music, no cell phone, no texting, no instant messaging, no Facebook, only the mystical sounds of birds. For the first time, in a long time, an overwhelming sense of peace came over me. I could breathe in the freshness of the air and the wisdom of silence. I heard more in the 10 minutes of silence than I had in months from humans. What I heard was silence serenading me victorious words of strength, peace and love.
The next time your caregiver world consumes you with noise from others, those support systems, take time out to wrap yourself in the healing sound of silence. Your soul and spirit will thank you. “Silence is the sleep that nourishes wisdom.”
For more health benefits of silence: http://omtimes.com/2012/10/the-health-benefits-of-silence-simple-yet-profound/